Created with Sketch. WeHeartIt Relationships are always easy when they first start. Both people are on their best behavior. Why would you want to take back someone who walked out on you? Why would you want to start a relationship that already ran its course? These are all legitimate questions that some people have about reconciliation. But not those who do want to get their ex back. They have a very simple answer to all these questions.
While the common wisdom is to stay far away from our old flames, many real-life off-and-on relationships suggest a different wisdom — that some of our happiest relationships can be with people we've already been with. Because of those assumptions, they tended to not discuss subsequent major life decisions, like moving in together or buying that shared pet they always wanted, which negatively affected the new relationship. The researchers concluded that people dating their exes were ultimately "less satisfied with their partner; had worse communication; made more decisions that negatively affected the relationship; had lower self-esteem; and had a higher uncertainty about their future together," according to a press release from Kansas State University. The first time around, they had a lot in common, but there'd been zero element of romance and, as Lucy told Mic, "I didn't feel loved by him in that sense.
After all, it's one of the biggest relationship no-nos in the book. But sometimes, giving it a shot is the best thing you can do for yourself, so that no matter what happens afterward, you don't have to live with a single "what if. You are starting a brand new relationship, not continuing the same one as before. Sure, both of those relationships happen to be with the same person, but the last relationship wasn't working for you as a couple, so why would you want to resurrect that one?
By Tayi Sanusi Jan 11 2018 Depending on how long you'd been together and the seriousness of the relationship, making the decision to break up with someone prompts a ton of feels. And in some cases, you may ultimately realize the breakup was premature, and maybe you just needed some time apart, instead — so you get back together.