So when is it best to meet for the first time in person? As quickly as possible? In my casethat was three months. By Aly Walansky Online dating can be a dream come true when it comes to finding your perfect mate, but it's also ripe with risks. At some point you will decide to take things offline, and you may find yourself booking a one-way flight to visit a complete stranger, one you really know nothing about. But you don't want to risk finding yourself in a disappointing a situation — or a downright nightmarish one, like the guy who recently flew across the world, and then waited 10 days in an airport for a date who stood him up. It might seem like you are doing a lot of leg work, but believe me, you do not want to show up only to be stood up, deceived, or put in a bad position.
Well, you ask… and I shall deliver. This episode, Mattias and I discuss 7 things that anyone in a long distance relationship should consider before meeting for the first time.
Though the internet allows us to connect with people across the globe near-instantly, dating apps like Tinder prioritize showing us nearby matches, the assumption being the best date is the one we can meet up with as quickly as possible with little inconvenience. A year and a half ago, I was 23, single, and working as an engineer at the online-dating site OkCupid. The site held a similar philosophy when it came to distance, and we employees would sometimes joke we needed to add a special filter for New Yorkers that let them specify, Show me matches under 10 miles, but nobody from New Jersey. At the time, I loved the concept of online dating and went out with other Manhattanites almost every weekend.
You have tons in common; sense the chemistry could be off the charts and feel guided to contact this person… but wait! They live in another country—a plane flight away!