View Comments Shutterstock It was when the first woman with whom I had exchanged messages invited me to give her a call that I suddenly realized just how screwy and contrived online dating really is. As I was dialing this particular woman, who lives in Cambridge, I realized that I knew an awful lot about her dating after 40 horror stories in bed. I had a whopping pile of information about this complete stranger, in fact, including details about her romantic history, religious convictions, and political beliefs, as well as a photo of uncertain vintage.
Men of all ages and marriage lengths responded. Some were married too young and are now single again in their 30s.
He says it totally changed the way he thought of women, and dating itself. Brian, 47, experimented with crude wordplay and rubbed his match the wrong way. Then he changed his bio and got banned. Josh, 45, fared slightly better — when he switched to Bumble. But plenty of men and women wade into online dating on the apps their younger counterparts made famous — and find a whole new world awaiting them.